True words of Lissa Rankin

It’s funny how we argue with reality, wishing things were different than they are. Maybe you’re arguing with the way your parents treat you or how much money you’re making or whether you got the promotion or the fact that you may not have a Valentine this year. You may even argue with the weather. 

But as Adyashanti says, “There isn’t a justified reason to argue with reality, because we’ll never win the fight. Arguing with reality is a sure way to suffer, a perfect prescription for suffering. Worse still, we find that we’re tied to whatever it is that we’re arguing with. Whether it happened thirty years ago or yesterday morning, if we argue with it, we’re trapped by it. We are reexperiencing the same pain over and over and over. Arguing with something doesn’t help us get beyond it; it doesn’t help us deal with it. It actually imprisons us; it ties us to whatever it is we’re arguing with.”

Martha Beck practices a simple meditation. Over and over, she repeats one mantra- “I accept.”

What aspect of reality are you arguing with today? Could you try simply accepting what it without resisting it?

3 thoughts on “True words of Lissa Rankin

  1. This was a really interesting read. It may be because I rarely argue, as I believe exactly as you state that it is a futile exercise that only leads to continual suffering. So why suffer, I choose not to coll headed making the most of whatever life has in store for me.

    • I am the exact same way… I don’t argue, it hurts you. Even though we have all heard it a 1000 times…It really is mind over matter. If the mind is negative… it leads to what you said, continual suffering. We have choice.. whether to accept every moment (good or bad) or not accept it. This is what people need to exercise… choose to accept, no matter what it is.. and then there is real peace within and positive radiates outwards – If that makes sense 🙂

      In the words of Katie Byron and I think you will appreciate this – “I am a lover of what is, not because I am a spiritual person, but because it hurts me to argue with reality”

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